Why Are Most Men Afraid Of Marriage?

[nancyshanice]

Studies show that many men are actually not really afraid of marriage but more likely to not be ready for marriage. This often confuses the man and he might act as if he is afraid, but really he just doesn’t have it in him yet to become a married man. Either way, you are facing a challenge.

It can feel almost impossible to get your man to propose to you. You can also start wondering why he isn’t proposing, for example, is it you or something you are not doing to make him be certain to stay with you? You could go on and on blaming yourself or finding something you are lacking for him to pop the question and this can get really stressful and difficult.

The most common mistake women make is that they put pressure on their man to marry them. This is a dangerous task to do as if a man doesn’t want to do something, he will fight back the pressure and you might hear things you don’t want to hear. Pressure will make your man only act worse than what you expect from him. When he is ready, he will show it.

The thing to do is to just give him time to think about it more and not bring up any commitment concerns or marriage talk. This will take pressure off of him to come to a decision on his own. The best technique is to focus on yourself, make plans on your own, and distance yourself from him. Sooner or later he will realize your sudden change in behavior and he will start to be afraid of losing you. This thought will creep into his mind and he will immediately try anything to keep you closer to him.

Is your boyfriend afraid of commitment or marriage? What do you think is the best way to get your boyfriend to pop the question? What are your thoughts about marriage?

[Alloys]

I think you have put it up correctly for if they are pressured they might fight back and the result may not be so pleasing. If you really want him wait and when he is ready it will be crystal clear light broad daylight and things will turn to your taste. Never hurry in this business that is what we are trying to do.

[lynkez]

I am sorry to say that some men fear responsibility and the fact that they will change their social lives to some extent makes them worry. They do not want to lose the female friends they used to flirt and flatter with around and freely.

Again, due to the conflicts associated with modern marriages, men have developed phobia of living in a stressful marriage. To some point they act confused of what choice might be right for them. They fear regretting later yet marriage is a lifetime commitment. They do not want to be like their friends who divorced months or years after marriage, or may be have domestic violence as the order of the day. They don't want unsatisfactory romance and sex in marriage lives which might lead to having 'side dishes'.

Women should never force into marriage their men for it may turn sour, opposite of what they expected. Let men have their good time determining the right wife for them but they shouldn't take women for a joyride only to disappoint them in the last moments.

[luicer]

I think men are very selective and in real sense, they don't take marriage as a goal just like women do; some just want to get married but not to marry! The probability that a man can be a superior son or superior father are high as compared to a good husband since the untimely mentioned relations they are pretty obvious with their part as these relations takes time to develop but in marriage; it’s like they have to understand things pretty quick and response to them! This to them becomes a big trap since they didn't get involved in household things before marriage that much but when a wife comes in, everything changes and he is now a father and every command to get things done in the house falls on his ways!

[lynkez]

You're right @luicer. Another reason why they fear marriage is that they may marry the wrong partner while their beautiful one isn't yet come. There are so many pretty girls out there and men get confused on who should make a wife and who shouldn't. They fear breaking up when they realize they weren't meant to be.

[genius2]

Change is inevitable but again being uncertain of what change will bring or how it will be like affects decisions we make.if one pops the question "will you marry me" the unconscious question in mind is whether she will be with you for better or worse.