Raped By Your Lover?

[lynkez]

Are you aware that most people are raped by their lovers, even in marriages? Love is a feeling of passion and admiration towards the one your heart cares for, the one whose feelings you never wish to hurt, the one you want to have fun with in doing almost everything as far as love is concerned, sex being a game of embracing real love and intimacy.

Sex is one of the acts of intimate love, as in opposite sex affairs. It implicates the readiness of the other, especially the woman, to be with her partner more and share those romantic moments together. Both parties should enjoy moments of sex after agreeing to do it.

Sex is more of fun when both parties are fully participating and therefore motivate one another. However, a concern has been raised that most men and to a lesser extent women rape their partners towards sexual arousal’s cooling.

It is possible that your partner is not ready for sex when you are, and if at all one has no mood for it, it may be hard to convince him/her into it. Sex is something that is directly linked to the psychology of a person and if one is not prepared for it s/he may end up being disillusionment.

This is what we call rape, whereby you force your mate into sexing when s/he is unwilling. If someone is bored by something or someone and you are not able to bring back his/her moods but demand to have sex, then be sure to be disappointed for even if you do you will be doing it solely. Leave your partner alone and try to bring another charming story instead, so that you do not hurt his/her. This happens even in marriages, whereby sex life of a couple is very poor and this mostly leads to extramarital affairs.

However much you may be subjected to the right to conjugal rights, it is good to discuss it with your partner before getting into it. Of course it is possible for you to do it but then I’m sure both of you will be in for it after some foreplay and then, taken by the romance, you find yourselves cuddled in the act! This is understood and tolerated, but asking for it when your woman has visited at your house or even forcing it to happen may ruin her attitude towards you. Remember not obviously is it that when a lady visits you sex is a must, you can share sweet bedtime stories, maybe foreplay, discuss over some important issues and you are done!

Ladies are not an exemption. When they feel they need it they may force their men to sex with them so as to quench their desires. Though, it does not mean that you watch your partner suffer of arousal yet you are there to help out. You need to care for the other’s feelings so as yours be cared for. Do not revenge just because s/he turned down your request the other day, but not to a for-granted taker.

[Ivyc]

I totally agree with you Inynkez, most people tend to ignore this but it is the truth. We all should learn to respect one another's feelings; in my own opinion l think people should be taught more about rape because a lot of people tend to know little or nothing about it. Lovers do rape their lovers on daily basis this also applies to those who are in marriage, they are going against the law unknowingly claiming that it is their matrimonial right which isn't right.

[lynkez]

But @Ivyc some people think as much as they are lovers they have the right to get intimate at any time no matter what. I wonder if the same people might one day say they are not in the moods when their partners ask to make love. Many families aren't in good terms for the same reason and unless there is understanding and mutual love between partners, intimacy will always be a conflicting issue.

Yes…it is rape when you force your wife into sex when she feels bad, unless she is pushing you back, a sign that she might be seeing someone else out there who quenches her sexual desires.

[genius2]

I think its the responsibility of either party to satisfy the other's desire of getting intimate/having sex even when you are not ready. its all about sacrifice to satisfy one another.

[lynkez]

I think its the responsibility of either party to satisfy the other's desire of getting intimate/having sex even when you are not ready. its all about sacrifice to satisfy one another.

To some extent yeah but then, is there any point or even pleasure in romancing someone who lies like a log simply because s/he doesn't feel like and you do? That means s/he isn't ready to sacrifice for you and has developed reservations for you as well. Be sure you may fight over this and maybe it will end somewhere you never expected. But it is dangerous to them that rebuff since infidelity is soon knocking and they will be the first people to open their mouths loud complaining. Unless it is a special reason as someone under medication, conjugal rights are mandatory but not overly done! Everything has time and season .

[dacox]

I think its the responsibility of either party to satisfy the other's desire of getting intimate/having sex even when you are not ready. its all about sacrifice to satisfy one another.

I completely disagree with you; especially when these parties are not married. Either party should respect the feelings of the other. Forcing them into sleeping with them is rape and punishable. If you are not able to respect someone when you are not married, what makes you think you can respect them in marriage. And even in marriage, even if it is a responsibility, rape, is no solution. A man who rapes his wife has no respect whatsoever for her. And so is a woman who forces her man into it.