Fundamentals in a Relationship

[lynkez]

It is both easy and hard to maintain a healthy relationship. Different people are born and raised differently, and therefore they perceive things from different angles. To make someone once a strange a best friend and a lover is a long way to go. It requires full sacrifice.

In some situations, things happen that at times you feel you cannot make it through but then at last after a big fight you win. It therefore requires corporate support from your partner in trying to sort out turmoil. Sometimes partners may fail to concur in thoughts and this will automatically cause conflict. Either no one is ready to admit fault and come down into remedy or one is top than the other.

In the foundation stages of a relationship, both parties have high expectations of intimate love, joy true companionship, mutual support and comfort, growth and all the good outcomes. At these stages love seems so sweet and both partners enjoy the company of the other more. Each day focused ahead seems to promise better things and moments to come. At such a time no one is ready or even thinks of a challenge either.

However much partners may wish to be closer than ever, they should keep in mind that distance may be a hindrance, maybe because or work or studying. Daters should be ready in any circumstance to face trials in their affair for no flat road leads a better destiny. In any journey people should be ready to encounter misery, unhappiness, pain, betrayal, insensitivity, manipulation, rage, addiction, co-dependency, resentment, jealousy.

It is healthy in any relationship to share thoughts and try to work out things. Some petty issues may be overlooked but in the end they burst out and cause total wrecking of a once intimate couple. A problem shared is as good as one solved and this is what it should be. This can only be if both individuals are free to one another.

Where there is love there is value and appreciation. Accepting your partner the way they are and not what you want them to be is very sustaining. Do not look much at the shortcomings and weaknesses of the other or even focus on things that hurt your partner. There is not a single problem that can miss to be sorted out. You are not perfect either and if you blame the other for being the cause you will end up breaking up or making the love bond slack.

Work towards eliminating things that sustain failure to your relationship and as well try to act towards those that sustain the love and happiness. Do not let anyone or anything ruin your affair. Remember you began it alone and you can still make it work alone. A third party may not be important at that time; you are the people who know best what is building stronger or ruining your love. Point it out and start working towards offsetting it.

[Joshua]

Maintaining a healthy relationship takes the effort of both partners. They need to be committed at making their relationship work. It is true that we differ from one another and it depends how we were brought up. Our character is shaped by what we saw our parents, siblings and relatives doing. We copied what we saw and if they were abusive and disrespectful we will also become abusive and disrespectful. This has affected relationships whereby partners are not able to cope with one another. For instance a person who is disrespectful will not get along well with a partner who is respectful.

Effective communication between partners helps in solving a lot of problems. Without effective communication things are likely to get out of control in a relationship leading to feelings of being ignored, insecure and eventually a breakup. Most of relationship mentors always advice couples to communicate with one another. They know communication is the key for a relationship to be stable. Understand your partner and let your partner also understand who you are.

[dacox]

People should look at life from this kind of viewpoint, @lynkez. If people took into account these fundamentals, then life could be smooth for all of us.

It is sad when your husband marries you then takes you to the countryside while he stays at the city. I wonder why some women could even consent to that. You got married to him, not his mama! I have never found this kind of behavior appealing in any way. That will only give him the chance to mingle with other women. Distance is a killer when it comes to married partners. If you are dating, it is okay... you can always overcome that. But if you are married! Try and make the distance shorter.