I would love to know how you guys feel about how Black women wear their hair. Let me first talk about my own hair. My hair is of a curly texture that goes past my shoulders, but it is thinner than I would like. I LOVE to wear weaves, braids and ponytails because I hate to spend lots of time doing my hair, and they are quick fixes that are so convenient and stylish. I have come across men who despise weave, as well as men who don't have a problem with weave as long as it looks good.
The men who despised weaves said it was because they feel like women that wear weave can't grow their own hair, and felt like we should be confident in ourselves without "hiding" behind weave. I had a friend of mine that stopped wearing weaves because the man she was seeing ridiculed her anytime she wore it. My boyfriend told me that his ex-girfriend's real hair remained a mystery to him the entire 8 YEARS they were together because she constantly wore extensions.
What a lot of these men don't realize is that one of our goals as women is to look good, not only for ourselves, but for them as well. I'm grateful to have a man who complements my hair when I'm wearing weave and even when I'm not. So do the majority of men really care if it's a weave or not? And do women prefer a weave or to be au natural? Is it an enhancement to the beauty we already have, or is it a remedy for an insecurity we may have about ourselves?