Many of us would like to avoid this problem of speaking in public entirely, but this is hard to do. Whether we work alone or with large numbers of people, eventually we will need to speak in public to get certain tasks accomplished. And if we want to be leaders or achieve anything meaningful in our lives, we will often need to speak to groups, large and small, to be successful.
To speak in public sounds as a common source of stress for everyone, but the truth about public speaking, however, is it does not have to be stressful! If you correctly understand the hidden causes of public speaking stress, and if you keep just a few key principles in mind, speaking in public will soon become an energizing and satisfying experience for you.
Before you offer to deal with your stress of speaking in public, you first must understand what life is itself. Thousands of human beings have learned to speak in front of groups with little or no stress at all. Many of these people were initially terrified to speak in public. Their knees would shake, their voices would tremble, their thoughts would become jumbled . . . you know the rest. Yet they learned to eliminate their fear of public speaking completely.
You don't have to be dazzling or just right to be successful when talking in the public. Many of us have observed public speakers and thought to ourselves "Wow, I could never be that smart, calm, witty, entertaining, polished . . . or whatever." Well, I've got news for you-- you don't have to be bright, amusing or ideal to succeed. You can make mistakes, get tongue-tied, or forget whole segments of your talk. You can even tell no jokes at all and still be successful.
You don't have to deliver mountains of facts or details to give your audience what they truly want. Many studies have shown that people remember very few of the facts or information speakers convey. While you may choose to include lots of facts and information, you only need to make two or three main points to have your talk be successful. You can even have your whole talk be about only one key point, if you wish.
Have a specific purpose of what you have to people. Often, many people make a mistake in this; they have no specific purpose in mind, but the one that is operating within them unconsciously causes a whole lot of unnecessary stress and anxiety.
Remember, the essence of public speaking is to give your audience something of value. Talk exactly what you are sure of and you are really capable of illustrating to people no matter how hard it will be. You are a good person to speak well if only you focus on your talk and see the audience as your siblings!