How Not to be Shy Around People

[nancyshanice]

Being shy is just normal but it can lead to denial of many things, so it is not good to be shy around people here are some tips to help u overcome it;


Understand Your Shyness

Shyness often stems from either a negative experience early in one's life or due to lack of self-esteem and/or being too self-conscious. One also needs to understand if he is shy only with a particular person or with every stranger in general. Once you have diagnosed your shyness, it's time to work on it. It is important to understand that people are not out there to scrutinize you. Everyone wants to meet a nice person who is easy to go with and nice to talk to. It's okay if you don't impress everyone. After all, everyone is not the same.

Overcome Your Negative Self Perception

Nobody is perfect. May be you are not a good public speaker. But why do you forget that you dance just as well as the best speaker in your college speaks? Showcase your talent. Each one has some or the other positive quality that we in our brutal self assessment tend to overlook. Focus on your strengths as this will help you to have a better self-esteem.

Be Approachable

Nobody likes one with sour expression or a slouching posture. Improve your body language. You don't have to be the best looking guy or have your audience in splits all the time. Just be well dressed. Wear a quiet, confident smile and maintain eye contact. No one expects you to pronounce words of wisdom. Just look well at ease with yourself.

Practice

You must have heard Practice makes a man perfect. It might seem like stepping right into the problem but there is nothing better than taking the bull by the horn. Go out to your friends' parties or to social gatherings. Talk to people. The initial experiences may not be good but this will give you enough scope to practice taking your mind off yourself. Ask your friends to introduce you to their friends. This would be a nice beginning as talking to a common friend may take the pressure of communicating with strangers off you. If it is the fear of public speaking, get a friend and ask him to listen to you as you speak.

It is just easy, only give it a try!

[Mercy20]

shyness as in many situations put many into traps they cant escape, one who is shy is an easy subject to trap, but if at all you are shy try to put the above tips into use, all will work well for you some day.

[luicer]

I think the problem with shy people is that they over-think too much. Too much what-ifs are in their heads. Just don't second guess, only act. Stop worrying about who you are, if people don't like you for you then that is their problem. If you really want to stop being shy/nervous then stop being shy/nervous; it's all in your head. Forget what other people think about you and be yourself!

[lynkez]

Especially in an interview, shyness may render one a failure. We need t be bold though not excessively for the facial impressions we make communicate our personality a great deal. To curb shyness one should exercise socialising with people freely so as to gain confidence. It pays.

[tommy]

I like the idea of practising by addressing people in your friends' parties and small social gatherings. This will definitely help you feel confident when addressing a larger group of people.

[dacox]

I like the idea of practising by addressing people in your friends' parties and small social gatherings. This will definitely help you feel confident when addressing a larger group of people.

I agree. I have come to realize that we don’t choose to be shy. Sometimes even when you try to put on that great confidence personality, it just doesn’t suit you. So we don’t choose whether to be shy or not, but we can overcome shyness if we are bet on doing so. Practicing during small gatherings is quite a good idea. I like it.

[Rroja17]

It demands a lot for someone to overcome the negative self perception in him/her. In the case of shyness, the feeling of inferiority and lack of confidence in approaching others, make someone shy. Shy people should believe in themselves.

[jeremiahbusey]

Learning how not to be shy around people, especially when you've been timid for so long, can really be challenging. The key to confidence is accepting and appreciating yourself. Keep putting yourself out there. Remember, the more you try, the easier it will be next time!

[Ivyc]

Overcoming shyness is not an easy challenge but all in all your personality determines.