How long should it take?

[njeri]

When you first meet somebody you like, you start looking forward to that day that you guys will be engaged. So how long should you date somebody before you become engaged and after that what duration do you court them before you decide they are the right person to get married to. Do you think there is any need of engagement in a relationship? What else do look in a person after being with them for duration that you feel you know them well to get engaged to them?
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[Madieu]

The answer to that question is it depends. I have met my wife only about a year before marrying her and we got engaged for only about three months. I do not know what is the use of the engagement period. If you feel that she is the right one, why don't you take the plunge into marraige.

[Jina]

I have three years of engagement before my wedding last year. So, I think an engagement period of two to five years are normal.

When my partner and I just got engaged, we decided that we would need about two years in order to afford what we want for our wedding and reception. We want a church wedding and a nice and fun reception, which we know is very expensive.

[Feruzi]

I think that one year should be the average time for couples to be engaged. However, if a couple has been together a long time, a brief engagement is not out of order. If, on the other hand, a couple has been together for a short time, they may want to be engaged for longer so that they can get to know each other better.

I believe that engagement is necessary to get to know the person better rather than just dating. Getting to know your partner after the wedding is just wrong and will frequently lead to break ups and failed marriages.

[Borte]

I think one year of engagement is more than enough before marrying but it depends on the circumstances. However, I do not foresee why it should extend for more than a year.

Regarding the period of going out to the engagement, I think it should also be a year. The total of two yars before marrying is more than enough time to really get to know each other and try to gauge your compatibility.

[walterdeus]

atleast one year before engagement and atleast two years before marriage. Long relationships dont end in marriages. Sex is the most important thing for a man in a relationship. I would rather marry the most ugly woman on earth with a satanic sexual behavior than marry an angel who is allergic to sex. I'm just kidding guys but that is the reality. Good luck

[Joseph]

Originally Posted by walterdeus
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atleast one year before engagement and atleast two years before marriage. Long relationships dont end in marriages. Sex is the most important thing for a man in a relationship. I would rather marry the most ugly woman on earth with a satanic sexual behavior than marry an angel who is allergic to sex. I'm just kidding guys but that is the reality. Good luck

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I think you need to see Dr Phil or attend one of those relationship counseling courses. Please forward your contact details and we will sure arrange one for you, even if we have to solicit for donations or call for a funds drive.

I really don't buy into this artificial time frame. I think the right question should be - Are we ready? Do we know what we are getting into? Are we happy as a couple? Do we know and understand what we are really doing and getting into? Can you be able to look into your partners, straight in the eye and genuinely feel comfortable staying together, have children together, wake up each morning and be the first awful thing you have to see and still be happy?

Ask yourself all those questions, it it takes one week that is fine (though I find it unresponsible) if it takes ten years, that is fine too (but I guess by then you will have already have enough fights and cheating to even want to ask this questions)