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Old 10-11-2008, 03:31 AM
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Hi Nikenya buddies;

I hope u'r weekend was fantastic.

I’m going to tell you in a nutshell, a better way to love the woman you married. Is that okay with you? It is called loving with wisdom. Do these 5 things on a consistent basis and, after one month let me know if your marriage has improved or not.

1-Listen to Your Wife

Do you listen to what your wife is saying? You listen to your boss when he is rambling on, don’t you? You listen to your naïve buddies tell you all kinds of things that don’t really matter in life, don’t you? Well then, why aren’t you listening to your wife? Start really hearing what she has to say and be supportive of her feelings and opinions. That means, opening up your ears and being perceptive to your wife’s needs.

2-Appreciate Your Wife

When was the last time you told your wife how much you really appreciate her and all the things she does? A woman puts out a lot more energy into the home and family affairs than the husband does. Sometimes she may feel as if she is the only one doing anything around the house and this is when she starts getting bossy and naggy with you.

I encourage you husband’s to start appreciating your wife for all that she does for you and the family. Marriage can be such a beautiful relationship when you show your love with wisdom. Stop just for a moment, and mediate on the beautiful woman you married. Be thankful that God gave her to you. Realize how blessed you are to have this woman as your wife and know that she is your right arm and sometimes your left arm too. Make your wife feel good about who she is and all that she does.

3-Please Your Wife Sexually

There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sex is a one sided selfish act that is mostly enjoyed by the husband. Women need a bit more pampering and nurturing in the bedroom. I mean, what does a woman get out of five minutes of copulation? Okay, so it takes a little bit more time to please your wife and you’re tired, so make love in the afternoon or early morning. You do have options. Love your wife with wisdom and start pleasing the woman you married.

4-Be More Helpful

Be more helpful by “asking” your wife if there is anything she needs you to do around the house, in the kitchen, or in the yard. For instance, she isn’t the only one who eats dinner you know. Maybe she would like some help chopping up vegetables, setting the table, or loading the dishwasher. She probably has mowed your yard for you, so give back in return and do some extra things for her around the house. She will be pleased that you did.

5-Be the Man of the House

Be her man and she’ll want to be your woman. Did you know that your wife becomes bossy and domineering because you are not listening to her? She feels unloved and unneeded by you when you take her for granted instead of appreciating all that she does for you and the family? A woman needs to be valued by her husband. This gives her more love to give to you.

If you want a humble and kind wife then don’t behave as if you are better than her. Share your feelings with your wife and get close with her. Don’t be afraid to let down your guard once in awhile. If you have emotions that are not getting met, talk to your wife about it. A wife wants to be there for her husband but if you don’t let your wife in, how can she help?

If you want a feminine, humble and kind wife, then don’t try and control her to be what you want her to be. She needs to be her own person. What you can do though, is control yourself to behave a certain way that makes your wife want to submit to your loving influence. Be a good example and she will want to surrender her love to that example. Love your wife with wisdom.

To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge, and happiness. Ecclesiastes 2:26
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I think I am going to crown you man of the year in Nikenya if you practice what you preach all the ladies will have to agree with me on this one. If all men were like this, marriage would be a bed of roses that everybody would be looking forward to.
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Abbotyoy,
You are very right!! I believe you are a married man and if not then seriously cohabiting. Most men will agree with me that this works for 97% of women and this is quite a majority. Some women are just radical and however how much you try to love and please them, they never reciprocate it.

The problem comes when you are married to a woman who believes she knows everything. You will correct her and she will see it as uncalled for criticism.
By the way, do you correct your wife when she is wrong or you are a type of " everything is ok baby". The best way to practice this if you dont see any improvement while practicing this is for both of you to go for counseling.

I have been through all these and have seen where it works and where it does not work.
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This is a very nice post and I think I have more questions than would like to make a comment. So here is my first question to all the ladies and good women....

I have always read elsewhere or been told that women/ladies don't like nice men but the bad boys.

If I'm reading correct all the "5 Ways to Love The Woman You Married" to me just sounds like playing the nice man.

I'm confused here, will someone please elaborate.

(N/B Every time I play nice, I lose them and when I play bad I become a magnet
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