Would you date/marry a HIV+ person?

[abbytoyo]

Two weeks ago I went for a complete physical checkup (including HIV test). I went for the checkup after hiding for over One-and-half year. Years back, I used to go for the checkup annually

Going for the test this time wasn’t easy at all. There were about 15 days between making a decision and taking it. And between taking the test and going for results, I went thru emotional breakdowns - nervous, scared, and feeling all other "trash feelings."…..Well, with the exception of other "alarming" physical results (like high "almost-to-the-ceiling" cholesterol), everything came out fine. My WBC, RBC, MCV, MCH, Platelets are all within the range. And the most important of all, my HIV status is negative. Woh Hoo Hurraaayyyy!!!!!

Anyhow, the whole physical-checkup-emotional-rollercoaster thing got me seriously thinking! Why are we so scared to know our HIV status? I mean, with all these medical advances that actually enable an HIV infected person to live longer than a Cancer and/or Diabetic patient, why are we still s.h.i.t.t.i.n.g in our pants whenever we think about taking the damn test? In fact, number of medical articles (like: TheStar.com | living | Living longer with HIV) have suggested that there is a high possibility that an infected person may live nearly (or longer than) normal life expectancy (so long as proper treatments are followed closely). So is the process of knowing the status still a monster thing really?…..Or we are just being cowards?

Then here comes another issue! How close can someone get to an infected person who belongs to an opposite sex, and not a relative - acquaintance, just a friend, bestfriend, casual date, or serious relationship? If someone you are interested in informs you that he/she is living with HIV, would you abandon your interests toward that person?

Would you dare date/marry an infected person?

I would! Yes I said it! I would date/marry an HIV victim. I’m confident with this because what I went thru last week (waiting for the results) opened up my eyes pretty well. I have come to terms that I will be intimidated with the virus no more. I will no longer bow down to the virus….not anymore! In fact, I will be more scared of cancer and other chronicle diseases than HIV infection.

Now, please don’t get twisted. Just because I wouldn’t be scared with the virus anymore, doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t take necessary measures to protect myself. The reasonable precautions would still rule my World. Precautions should include awareness of the status of the person who is around me for a serious relationship (and vice versa). The difference is, my interests/intentions toward the person would never change, regardless of what the status that person maybe in. If infected, then we would just have to make few important decisions…… including practicing highly safe "maloloso."

So how about u hommies in Nikenya?

[zombie]

Well it really depends. if i know she is infected with dangerous diseases then i won't marry her it is the case of arrange marriage. but if it is love marriage and if i promised her that i will marry her. then i would reject her after getting that she is infected with AIDS. so whatever i would marry only her. even if it will suffer me so long...

[Joseph]

Some of those tough decisions to make, aha! My simple verdict is that it depends.

First of all let me say that If I am the one infected then, I won't want to waste anyone's time - So my golden rule will be simple as soon as someone shows a serious interest, I will straight on tell them I'm infected with HIV and from there they can make up their decision on the way forward.

Just in the same way, I would like them to just tell the truth from the onset, I won't want to date a women and then a year down the line when I propose or we are ready to get married that is the time they decide to spill the beans. I will consider that as an act of hiding the truth and In my mind probably I would be like...what else would they be hiding. As you know very few relationships can blossom in an atmosphere of suspicion. So please, just be truthful from the moment you both decide to make it a serious relationship.

On the other case, if we start a relationship and then unfortunately discover that the other partner is infected but she truthfully did not know before, then what other way to show someone that you love them than to be with them at their hour of need?

[walterdeus]

HIV infected person.
Ambytoyo,
Why the hell would i date an infected person with HIV?? Hell No!! Not me, Never!
There are many pretty women without that infection. The purpose of datting is to shop around for someone who will be eventually your life long partner. This is somebody who will bring forth your kids. By dating an infected individual, you are defeating the ultimate purpose of dating. You know it better. Dont date an infected individual.

[rose]

Never say never they say, all I can do is wish in a million times this never happens to me. But on the bright side they suggesting they might have had a break through with the HIV cure. Some days ago a story appeared on yahoo that a person who was HIV positive received a bone marrow transfer and after the ressults turned out negative on there HIV status the truth to these story is still not clear but it would be good news too many!