How do you avoid the "typical" relationship?

[rose]

I pride myself on being an atypical girlfriend. I like to cook for my boyfriend(not everyday, but enough). I don't mind him going out with his friends, and when he does I don't call him fifty times to check up on him. I give him his space and treat him like a man, not a little boy. But with that being said, I sometimes find myself slipping into that "nagging" mode. For example, I accused him of not wanting to spend time with me and I got upset. And afterwards, I felt like a cry baby idiot. I don't want to become one of those girlfriends who is always complaining or nagging their man to the point where they feel like they can't do anything right. How do you fight the urge become they type of girlfriend nobody wants?
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[Seth]

Instead of complaining to your boyfriend that "he never spends time with you anymore," try a more positive tone. Tell him how much you enjoy his company and that you should spend more time together.
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[Kiara]

Originally Posted by Seth
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Instead of complaining to your boyfriend that "he never spends time with you anymore," try a more positive tone. Tell him how much you enjoy his company and that you should spend more time together.
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Seth is right you should compliment first before making any criticism. And any criticism should have a positive spin in it so your partner will not take it negatively.
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[sanju123]

The most important thing in a relationship is giving nature, it is not that what you are getting, it is what you can do for your partner.Love is not taking but it is giving. The relationships clicks only when you stop cribbing.To remain lovable be lovable.

[Mei]

I am in a long distance relationship. It is hard because you don't own your time and you will sometimes feel that you are alone. i do also nag and i don't let him go out with his friends just to spend his time with me. But one thing i have leaned in this kind of relationship is that, you also need time for yourself. My boyfriend is a very busy person and we rarely have time to talk which gives me a chance to nag. the thing that i do is that i make myself busy for me to let him do what he is doing. try it, it really worked for me.

[mamatito33]

When you feel overwhelmed and frustrated and the urge to nag him about something comes over you, take a deep breath, and think. Think about how it will sound to him. Will it make him want to do what you want, or push him to withdrawl a little bit more. Then, think of how you can word it so as not to come across as nagging. How would you want him to address you if the table was turned. Talk to him when you are both calm and explain to him that you miss him and want to spend a little more time alone together. And give him the reasons why you love spending time with him. You can always put a positive tone on a negative situation if you look at it closely enough. And that goes for marriages as well as dating. BELIEVE ME.

[Asante]

One problem with relationships that result in nagging may be the lack of patience on both parties. Sometimes we have to accept out partner for what he/she is and not mold them into our ideal partner. Everybody has their own quirks.

[taki]

Originally Posted by Seth
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Instead of complaining to your boyfriend that "he never spends time with you anymore," try a more positive tone. Tell him how much you enjoy his company and that you should spend more time together.
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A very good point to mention. If your feeling insecure, and that's what it sounds like is coming out here, the best way to deal with it is to offer to spend more time with him.

[Joe]

Originally Posted by rose
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I don't want to become one of those girlfriends who is always complaining or nagging their man to the point where they feel like they can't do anything right. How do you fight the urge become they type of girlfriend nobody wants?
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Mmm...not easy ha!

Simply don't.

Why not turn the ball around and see if the man in your life also want to spend time with you. Here is how:

Find something that you love to do, something you have always cherished to do and start doing it, get busy and be committed.

Now this is going to make you not to be too much available or idle so that all you do is think about spending time with your guy who on the other hand might not be available.

Seriously, if you man doesn't notice the change and tries to make an effort for you to spend time together, you'd rather start shopping somewhere else.

[WildcaT]

Originally Posted by rose
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I pride myself on being an atypical girlfriend. I like to cook for my boyfriend(not everyday, but enough). I don't mind him going out with his friends, and when he does I don't call him fifty times to check up on him. I give him his space and treat him like a man, not a little boy. But with that being said, I sometimes find myself slipping into that "nagging" mode. For example, I accused him of not wanting to spend time with me and I got upset. And afterwards, I felt like a cry baby idiot. I don't want to become one of those girlfriends who is always complaining or nagging their man to the point where they feel like they can't do anything right. How do you fight the urge become they type of girlfriend nobody wants?
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My girlfriend nags all the time but i like it because at least i know she cares about me.