tips for long distance relationship

[Mei]

i am in a long distance relationship and it is really hard. i need tips on how to make this relationship work. sometimes i don't trust my boyfriend although i know that he really loves me. But there are still times when i can't help thinking what he is doing and who's with him. I know that having trust is very important in a long distance relationship but i just can't avoid not to think of bad things.

[Abasi]

I sympathize with you. I have been into two long distance relationships, one worked turned out badly and we still do not talk to each other while the other one turned out pretty well as I am now married to her.

[Asante]

Long distance relationships rarely work out. In addition to the loneliness associated with the distance, you have also to contend with the costs involved. Constant communication is very expensive in terms of telephone bills as I experienced firsthand before.

[taki]

The internet has made communication much more easy than it was in the past. Programs like Yahoo and Skype allow you to talk to them via voice if you wish and the quality is pretty good, just as good as a telephone and better than a cell phone in my opinion.

[Asante]

I guess you are right. Costs have definitely gone down since the advent of the internet but there are too many obstacles in long distance relationships. You definitely have to be sure that he/she is the one and you can not find anyone else like him/her.

[WildcaT]

Originally Posted by Mei

i am in a long distance relationship and it is really hard. i need tips on how to make this relationship work. sometimes i don't trust my boyfriend although i know that he really loves me. But there are still times when i can't help thinking what he is doing and who's with him. I know that having trust is very important in a long distance relationship but i just can't avoid not to think of bad things.

I guess the best advice would to visit him as much as you can though the travel cost are expensive.

[Joe]

Originally Posted by WildcaT

I guess the best advice would to visit him as much as you can though the travel cost are expensive.

I don't really think that will help the situation, in fact I think it will make matters worse because what those visits actually achieve is to make the two of you became very much aware of the distance barrier and that you need to do something.

Now I do think that the best thing for you guys to do is to take a two weeks vacation and not go into a fancy hotel or places but into a place that will have just the two of you together in a natural environment that is very similar to a home or apartment.

Heck, you can even decide to spend the two weeks in either of your partners apartment of house for that matter. Remember you both just want to make this as natural as possible as if you are already staying together, so don't plan a lot of treat and nice things for each other.

If the two of you can handle those two boring weeks together and still don't want to leave each other, then I think you guys are ready to take your relationship to another level. But if you just can't wait to get back to your place, just forget it! long distances mostly work because you miss each other but not necessarily that you like and love each other.

[damaged]

Actually same thing happened to me. If you really make suspicion upon him all time and if you torture him about every single thing then you can be sure he will go away from you. So beware from Now. Keep more trust upon him and be happy

[Joe]

I think so, once the trust level starts to warn down and suspicion sets in, that is it. If not checked then that relationship should either be ended or live a constant life of miserly, always in worry or constant fighting over accusations

[rose]

Relationships are handful whether long distance or you live in the same house if the man is bound to cheat on you he go ahead and do it. Think about he must have done something for you to either stop trusting him or not fully trust him or he is just the character you can't trust. I wish you luck in all this it requires a lot of patience which i hope you posses