Giving Without Expecting Back

[luicer]

Less people have this aspect in life. Be the person you really want and tell others your true inner feelings and thoughts more assertively. Even though you may fear that others may not like whom you really are and reject you, which are good, being open separates those people who are "right" for closer relationships from those who are not. If you present yourself honestly and openly from the beginning, you will attract or repel people much faster.

An important lesson about concern is that when we focus on external outcomes that are beyond our immediate control, we give up control of our emotions and will begin to feel anxious and helpless. The same is true in meeting people, approaching people, talking to people, trying to help people, trying to entertain people, etc. Focus on your actions not their reactions. If you focus on their evaluation or approval of you, spending time with you, giving back to you, or any other reaction outside your control, you increase your anxiety and helplessness.

Everybody ought to focus on approaching people, being friendly, talking and listening to them, showing your openness and honesty, your assertiveness and your positive thoughts. You can control what you think and do. The result will be that you are setting attainable goals that you have control over; knowing that can give you peace.

In the long run, you may not want to invest much energy in a relationship if you do not receive enough of what you want. However, in the short run, focus on your actions as ends in themselves to "practice your act" and be the kind of person in a relationship that you want to be. Eventually others will respond positively as you get better at it and as you approach the right people. How many do you help without expecting anything in return? How does that affect people around you?

[lynkez]

Religious alms have it that when you extend a helping hand to your needy neighbour you should not expect anything in return from them but let God alone reward you. Though there are situations in which giving must correspond with receiving. For instance in a love affair, whom will want to love someone and does not expect love I return unless it is other people you are being good to as states the bible?

[Alloys]

When someone gives without expecting back, he/she will go on with his life without retardation in his progress since he/she will not be planning for what they expect back from someone. By this someone is able to accomplish his own thing. Even the bible quotes that the only thing that we are supposed to owe someone is love and nothing else.

[205victor]

The key to failure is trying to please everybody, so in everything you do, be positive about yourself and never wait for anybody to appreciate you following that not all people will do that and if they don't never get discouraged for if you did it right, you will be rightfully reward by our Father in Heaven.

[Ivyc]

You don’t give to please others .you give because you feel like giving. You don’t expect the people you do good things to, to give you something in return or to appreciate you. One can only do his part which is giving and doing well to everybody and the rest leave it to God for He knows how to reward better everybody according to his deeds.

[a2zchild55]

Hi

Love is unconditional, which can be given without taking.

Thanks
Bacati

[jeremiahbusey]

Releasing expectations doesn’t mean you give other people permission to treat you thoughtlessly. It just means you check in with your motivations and give because you want to; and then ask for things directly when you want them. People who care about you will be there for you in return.

[lynkez]

I however question about this man in the bible who had an encounter with Jesus at one night. He was very rich and a Christian. He wanted to know the way to God's kingdom. Jesus told him to observe God's commandments and he confidently answered that all commandments are at his fingertips and so does he. Jesus knew he wasn't telling the truth because there is an element he missed. He therefore had to proof to Nicodemus that all was not well with and he had to sell all his riches, give to the poor then resolve into following Jesus. What was Nicodemus missing?

Does observing the law make us righteous?

[Joshua]

We are always in control of what we think. We should not allow thoughts that are destructive to dominate our thinking. We should have the habit of giving without expecting something in return.

We help the society by volunteering to help people around us and this improves their lives in one way or the other. As an example, helping drug addicts to overcome their addiction helps them to avoid diseases like cancer which will end up consuming the family's finances if these addicts are not helped. We can also educate the society on the importance of family planning and how they can do family planning. There are just many ways we can help the society.